Yes you can.

When I look at who gives the most in our society, one group stands out: moms.  I know my mom sacrificed a lot here raise five kids.  And in many she sacrificed too much.  So finding the balance is always key.  And it's not easy.

Obviously there are times when you are either a mother or father where there's absolutely no balance.  That is the natural order of things.

The trick is to find out how to take care of yourself whenever it is appropriate – that leads to taking better care of your children.

I also know that if parents don't take care of their relationship by investing time on it, the consequences for the kids can be severe.

A few days ago I found a website run by a woman named Julie Van De Wyngaerde: www.self-centeredmoms.com.

She describes her goal as: “I help mothers connect with themselves …(to help) them to feel fulfilled. I do this by focusing on four key areas and ask the following: Are you Supported, Expressed, Loved and Fulfilled. If the answer is "no" or if she wants more in any one of these areas then I help her to realize all of these in her life so that she has greater joy and happiness. This will result in a better relationship with her spouse or significant other, her children and other family members and friends. The end result is a happier mom and thus a happier functioning family.”

She has a free newsletter.  And I know that if I was a mother or pregnant I would be signing up for this.